If you asked NOM's supporters (the ones allowed to comment freely on their board, as I've well-established), gays are "needing of a psychiatrist" "immoral" and "unhealthy." Some will parse words and say that they do not hate gay people, but they hate the gay lifestyle and think that homosexuality itself is immoral. But what is the difference? It would be akin to saying "I don't hate you, I just hate your religion" (Religion is a choice, after all - much like the religious right contends of homosexuality). The thing is so many other groups, be they minority or majority identify themselves based on a behavior or set of behaviors. Suddenly the majority plays the victim card because they feel they are being unfairly characterized as having animus towards a minority simply because they "disapprove of a lifestyle."
And yet it goes so far beyond "disapproving of a lifestyle." "Gays are mentally unstable," "Gays are illogical," "Gays are just friends," "Gays dress in leather chaps" who "Look at children as products," and are people who "Want to corrupt marriage." The problem with this kind of rhetoric is that it goes far beyond merely stating one's position - it is justifying one's position with lies and stereotypes. And when one believes all of the lies and stereotypes as justifications for a particular position (one that's not based on hatred, mind you), it is not far off to call for more than simply "defending marriage." People call for gays to be put behind an electrified fence to "die off". If that is not horrible enough, these people are then applauded for their position. There are also people who want to see homosexuality criminalized.
My point is that groups like NOM and its supporters are not simply motivated by the belief that "marriage is one man one woman." They fear a great cultural shift because they legitimately have animus towards homosexuals. They fear having children who will "accept homosexuality," and deliberately mischaracterize the love two men or two women have for each other as being akin to the love brothers feel for each other or sisters feel for each other. And yet none of this is hatred in their eyes. Yet the moment someone calls them out on it, that person is immediately identified as being "hateful" of someone "Defending marriage."
With all of that said, I now present comments for the week of September 1 - 7. I will do my best to upload deleted comments, however my comments are no longer being sent through the filter - they don't even appear after I send them to try and get a screencap - almost as if NOM does not think anything I say, however respectful, is worthy of their comments board, simply because it is a reasoned dissent. So I ask all of my readers (all two of them) to please help out and send submissions to email@example.com and help with this ongoing project of mine. Thank you.
From Daughter of Eve
There is no way homosexual behavior has anything to do with love. Lust? Yes. Selfish gratification? Yes. Pride--as in arrogance, yes, but nothing to do with personal dignity, or self confidence born of achievement or personal virtue.